My bridesmaids are all really far away, and I feel like I'm doing the bulk of planning on my own. I think I'm doing all right so far, and everyone keeps commenting on how on top of things I am. But because I'm alone in planning today, I'm assuming — incorrectly — that I'll be alone the day of. We're not going to have a day-of coordinator, other than the one provided at the church. For the reception though, we're on our own.
I'd compiled a list of things (so far) that needed to get done the morning of the wedding, and when I looked at the list, I couldn't help but realize that if I did all those things on my own, there was no way I was going to be happy and stress-free. I'm getting married at two o'clock in the afternoon, and I don't want to run around that morning trying to get things set up in multiple locations on top of trying to be stress-free and doing the things I ACTUALLY need to do, like getting purty and enjoying time with the friends that I rarely get to see.
Mr. Hyena took my computer away from me and took control of my "duties to assign" Excel list. He deleted my name from all the cells I had put it in. But! If not for me, then who will take care of all these little details that no one but me cares about?!
Mr. H has a large family. He has six sets of aunts and uncles who all live within five minutes of each other a short two-hour drive away from us. It's perfectly reasonable to assume that most (if not all) of them will be at the wedding. So, like countless cousins before us, he picked a couple of them that we could get to help out setting up, so as not to overwhelm anyone and make sure that everyone still has a great time at the wedding. He assured me that they would get everything done, and that likely they would have a very long meeting with us in advance to make sure everything would be done right. And we went through and assigned the duties.
Now, I just have to step back and let go.
Are you hiring a DOC?
Nope! I just can't justify the expense with so many people who - believe me - are more than willing to help out. I went back to find the email my aunt sent out a few days prior to my cousin's wedding re: who would be handling what - like my mother was responsible for going to the florist, picking up the flowers and giving them to the bridal party and family. I think that as long as everyone is very clear on what needs to be done and feels appreciated, it can go very smoothly without a coordinator :-)
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